In January 2010 we finally get word that it's our turn to review the list of available egg donors. Although the wait was longer than expected - we used the time to re-do all the testing we needed. Each year we have to be retested for STD's and naturally provide all kinds of body fluids to be sure everything is in working order.
We also lined up another loan so that the money would be available. We learned over the years that as soon as our turn comes - we better be ready with everything. Otherwise we might as well add a few months onto the wait time.
We were excited to see the donor list. Everything is anonymous - so each woman is noted with only an ID. The list includes a survey for each woman. She completes info on medical history, physical characteristics, hobbies, career, religion, ethnicity, and some opened ended questions.
At first it seemed important for the donor to have the same ethnicity and physical appearance as me, but it turns out lots of Milwaukee women with blonde hair and blue eyes have trouble conceiving. Every woman on the list with the blonde/blue combination was already reserved by another couple.
Dan and I each reviewed the list and made our top 3 choices
As I read the profile of each one - the physical stuff became much less important. I wanted to be sure that the donor was under 30 years old, had proven fertility, and listed a caring reason for wanting to be a donor.
Dan's list, on the other hand, consisted of those donors who where about 5' 3" and 110 pounds - Shocking! Forget that I am 5' 6" and have not been 110 pounds since 7th grade....
Naturally, I get my way and we decide on a woman who is 28 years old and has 4 children. Although she had never been an egg donor before - she seems like a baby factory and commented that she genuinely wanted to help another couple.
OK - now what?
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